When I first went totally blind, I was fiercely independent. I insisted on carrying my own bags, finding my own way, all the time, no matter what. I quickly learned, I was setting myself up for failure, disappointment and bitterness.
One of the biggest mistakes you can make when you’re trying to get ahead is not accepting support. To accomplish your goal and achieve whatever success you’ve set out to achieve, you need to be the best you possible. But you put yourself second and jeopardize your success when you refuse support and reject proven systems and methods that can help you get to where you’re going.
When you deny yourself much needed, valuable support, it looks like you are making a sacrifice for the greater good. You’re being noble, responsible, reasonable, logical… Or you’re being strong, independent, confident, demonstrating your competence… That’s what I thought I was doing- I was proving to myself and everyone else that I, a blind woman, can do it herself- thank you very much.
However, when you don’t get the support you need during the process, you breed resentment. You are much more likely to resent having to give up everything you gave up or lost out on or resent the people around you because they aren’t helping. And, if you don’t reach your goal (which is all too likely when you go at it totally alone), you start to resent life itself.
Success is sweet, but it’s even sweeter when you are surrounded by support and can share and celebrate your success with others.
You alone can do it, but you can’t do it alone. Get the support you need so you can do it and actually be happy not only when you get what you want, but also while you’re in the process of getting there.